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Mean Girl
9:53 PM November 22, 2006

I was once again reminded that I have a tragic tendency to be mean, even when I don't intend to be. I realized this fact some time ago, when all my friends thought I hated a certain someone because I would say mean things to him every now and then. The thing is, I didn't hate him, in fact, I was the most neutral. I didn't even realize I was being mean. -_- Eventually, this person just got mad at the trio, because V and S said something to him and because, although I was asleep while this all happened, I was the meanest to him in general. 0_0 Apparently, while Stacy has a tendency to be frank, I was a level worse, cause I was mean. u_u And in truth, since then, I myself am able to pin point some times when I unintentionally say something regrettably mean. I think I blogged about it once before. It's bad isn't it? Cause it happens even when I don't intend or notice it, and people not used to me won't easily forgive or try to understand me for it. *sigh* Perhaps I truly am socially retarded.

come fly ~ gen

mean doesn't mean socially retarded gen, especially if you're aware that the problem is there. since you notice naman that you say mean things pala, thats a start! :D

~ Vigile | November 23, 2006 9:07 AM

I thought you were a geek Gen, not a dork. :p Just kidding. I wouldn't worry about that "someone" so much. He's rather touchy after all. *shrugs* No biggie. :)

About being mean unintentionally, that's moderately easy enough to prevent if you really want to stop it. Just be observant of the people's reaction around you. If they laugh, it's fine. If the laughter is somewhat constrained, stop and move the conversation in a different direction. If the expressions become either openly hostile or there are uncertain glances, apologize and watch what you say to that person or those guys to avoid future pain or embarassment. :)

Socially retarded.. Hmm... definition would be a person who keeps doing awkward/embarassing things and not being able to remedy it? Not certain. ^^; I'm not sure if meanness falls under that and considering you have a group of good friends, you probably aren't socially retarded anyways. :)

~ Signia | November 24, 2006 10:06 PM

Hehe... I thought you were going to invite me into the Army of Dorkness. ^^; well, your remedy isn't as easy as you make it seem, unfortunately.

And I'm not really overly concerned about that "someone" anymore. It was just one of the more pronounced and familiar examples I knew that would help describe what I meant. ^^; Although I seriously am sorry if I was too mean.

I don't want to wake up one day and find out that I grew up to be a cruel rotten person. :( That's what I'm worried about.

~ Gen | November 25, 2006 12:52 AM

gen, I'm sure you wouldn't turn out to be a cruel rotten person. The fact that you are concerned that you have been saying mean things to people and feel remorse about it makes a big difference. Kung di ka man nagsisisi sa mga masasamang things na nasasasabi mo, yun talaga ang mean and even kinda like bitchy.

~ Stacy | November 29, 2006 7:05 AM