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Questions that can't really have right answers. Only bold opinions, and then some.
7:45 PM March 18, 2007

I once came upon the question: "Is it possible to fall out of love overnight?"

*Don't jump to conclusions, this was asked while a friend and I were using the Y!M account of someone else.*

Overnight is a bit too fast. But if she had indeed fallen out of love, she must have experienced it some time ago, and in time, grew sure enough of that fact to tell him straight out that she has stopped loving him. It wasn't overnight, definitely, but you only learn about it when it has reached a point where there can be no doubt in the other person's mind about the matter. The statement is no small declaration, and isn't something one can easily throw around without doubt or worry. If it has been said without either, then the rest of the world would be unable to do anything but offer hesitant and often worthless reassurances. But that never stops anyone from hoping and attempting to offer hope. And why not? Just worry about it when you're absolutely sure you have to, not much earlier, to keep sane more than anything. :p

And although overnight seems like an overstatement, they DO say a person does his/her deepest thinking before sleeping, when nothing can directly call his/her attention elsewhere. And when the problem is deep enough, the thinking stretches out long enough to inhibit actual sleep and last all night, hence an overnight realization.

But in answer to the question, no. I don't think it's possible to fall out of love overnight. But the realization of it can happen overnight.

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In my opinion, a more worrisome question would be, should you give up when the other seems done with trying (or seems to have given up) or no longer deserves another chance? If no, then when should you give up? If yes, how can you be ready to give up everything and not look back? And when can you tell that they no longer deserve another chance anyway?

*ahem, again another disclaimer. This is apparently the BIG question embedded in pretty much all heartbreak and unrequited love scenarios I've some across in my life. Of course, I wasn't a participant in the stories myself, more of an observer or listener. ;p And thus the not-at-all-bitter reaction. XD*

Now this is a lot more complicated. I don't really have an answer to this, and my poor friend was always left alone in her woes about this question. u_u Letting go is no doubt difficult, but if it's necessary, then prepare yourself to do so. Even a little inch away, little by little, will still lead to a considerable distance in time. ^^; But I don't know. Perhaps in some cases, this is the time to be harsh on yourself and just cut it off abruptly. Like a gunshot, pull out the bullet and close the wound no matter how painful, just to stop the loss of blood. Worry about the scarred tissue later on. And I hear declaring it out loud can help. :)

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And can the same be asked of a friendship? Or of a passion or dream? :(

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And for the most pressing question, why doesn't anyone comment or tag anymore? Has the blogging world died without anyone telling me?? T_T

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Why am I not studying???

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Why does Twinky the Mini Pin like biting everything in sight? Please tell me! Is there a way to train her to stop?

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Why didn't I learn to play an instrument like Chiaki? @_@ Chiaki... Chiaki...

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Please understand and forgive the bangag-ness. Unlike the rest of the world, my deepest thoughts apparently come right before studying, instead of sleeping. So it becomes a means of procrastination. u_u

come fly ~ gen

hi gen, :D i haven't been commenting coz I haven't been reading. my fault. :(

love questions..hmm.. maybe you should ask sig? ^_^ hehehe~ successful love story? hehehe..

anyway, for that one question that you didn't seem to have addressed, I think that for as long as you think there's even the slightest bit of hope that there's still a chance for the two of you, (even if the partner has stopped trying) you shouldn't stop trying.

that slightest bit of chance though, depends on the person. a slightest bit that is negligible to one may be good enough for the other. ^__^ dun lang siguro magkaka iba iba. :)

yun lang.

if the other doesn't deserve another chance, doesn't the question answer itself na? ^_^ yun nga lang, again it caters to the personal perceptions of people on what they think deserves a second chance. others might think differently from the one making the choice..

yan gen, mejo substantial comment naman ito diba?

btw, i don't think sig reads blogs anymore. O___o she hasn't even commented to my Kada entry. :( hay.

~ Vigile | March 20, 2007 12:45 AM

Sig reads blogs. She just doesn't comment when she has nothing earth-shattering to say. :p

I agree (more or less) with what Vig said about your entry. I'm just stricter when it comes to "deserving" issues. :)

~ Signia | March 24, 2007 10:09 PM

Btw, what makes a successful love story? @_@ On what terms do you base the success on? :p

And... I am avoiding certain blogs as of now. Your's would be one of them, Budjil. :) No offense to you, just avoiding a potential surge of bitter smiles and cynical brooding on my part.

~ Signia | March 24, 2007 10:20 PM

sig:

dunno bout the successful love story thing. but you're happy aren't you? isn't that good enough?

~ Vigile | March 27, 2007 10:37 PM

Sig! I missed you guys! T_T Successful love story? I dunno. I guess it's when you see an old couple still holding hands and calling each other dear names? I think that's sweet.

But I don't know really. As they say, nothing is really totally successful, yada yada, as much as it pains me to remind everyone of that. So cliche. Tsk.

Successful love story: probably could mean the world is a better place because these two are together. :) Aww...

~ Gen | March 27, 2007 10:38 PM

I snorted at that last sentence of yours Gen. lol XD Seeing old couples still holding hands and looking at each other sweetly always gives me a warm and happy feeling. :)

~ Signia | March 28, 2007 8:05 PM

hehe... warm and happy feelings? me too. :) About my last sentence, it made me laugh. :P

~ Gen | March 31, 2007 10:13 AM

Successful love story: probably could mean the world is a better place because these two are together. :) Aww...

hehehe...para bang socio-civic activity ang ginagawa pag narinig ko ang "the world is a better place"

para bang you're doing it for the world by being together and not really for each other or for yourself.

~ Vigile | April 06, 2007 5:39 PM

para bang you're doing it for the world by being together and not really for each other or for yourself.

Hmm... not really. It could mean YOUR world is better, not necessarily that your coming together brought about world peace. :P

But it's a matter of perspective. For instance, if the rest of the world scorned you (say a married man and his mistress kind of love story) then you can't exactly say that their story was successful though they may have loved each other. It's just wrong. 0_o

basta... its a thought to ponder.

~ Gen | April 11, 2007 10:19 PM